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by laurieg 1092 days ago
Sorry about what happened to you. I can't imagine how that feels.

I would first suggest learning to accept your limitations. This is the hardest thing in the world right now. All you want to do is fix things. You want to find that magic cure and set everything right. Of course, work with your doctors and do everything you reasonably can to improve your situation. But also realize that not accepting these new limitations is doubling up your anguish: once for the medical issue and then again for your reaction to it.

I suffer from working memory issues. It has affected my career, but I still do have a career. There are many useful assistive technologies. Smartphones, smart speakers and so it. It's easy to have reminders come up pretty much anywhere you are. Keep things in your visual field if you need to remember them (sticky notes on the monitor is a trope for a reason). Keep pen and paper (or tablet etc) and use it religiously. It will become second nature.

As for your career situation, you still have a lot of options. You say your chances at for getting into a top university are low. Of course it isn't easy to get into these great universities. And most people aren't dealing with missing 6 months of school!

I'll leave you with one thought:

> I had to drop an A level (further maths), which made my already infitesimal chance of Oxbridge zero

My rather small, rather ordinary school didn't offer further maths as an A-level. I applied and got an offer anyway. Maybe things aren't as dire as you think?