| > without treating dating like a job search You are right, but expand that horizon a little bit. Dating has to be given consistent time. You're unlikely to get lucky. But, it does not have to be separate activity. Choose a co-ed hobby / co-ed workout, and stick to it. Your workout becomes where you find people to date. If you aren't actively looking, then see if you can build a rapport with someone first. If you see some potential, then you can make the move. If not, you still got a workout/hobby and a friend out of it. The stigmatization of approaching someone in the workplace, and increasingly in any non-bar public places is an impractical solution with more negative side-effects than many realize. Work dating is becoming a no-no, but I would suggest that you be more brazen in otherwise semi-acceptable public places. (p.s: make necessary adjustments to the comment acc. to your dating preferences) > don’t know how to find anyone I actually like That sounds like a bigger underlying problem. It is the same steps as I mentioned above, but finding your community is incredibly important to general well being. |