| One of the obvious bugs to me is that, I think one of the most common and profound bugs men seem to have is in the active listening department. This one quality tends to be quite profound at setting men apart. No need to disagree, fix, suggest, or provide a different perspective. Listen and thoughtfully respond with empathy to what the woman is saying. Hopefully, that’s one of the interpersonal bugs you figured out. ;) Far too often I see: Woman: “My model of the world is X” Man: “Your model doesn’t make sense. This is my superior model.” Woman is irritated. Alternatively, merely responding with, “I never saw the model of the world that way. Tell me more. Why is X that way? What is Y?” Now she feels seen and heard. And provides the basis for men to also feel seen and heard as well. Hopefully, this comment can help the many men out there who have trouble with women. Not to mention, men tend to provide this exact response to other men, which compounds the irritation women tend to feel. |