[habinero]

Oh, I read it. I'm commenting on what you chose to emphasize and what you left out, because that speaks volumes about what you value.

Almost all of the advice was around superficial, self-centered things.

All of it was about you getting something you want, and none of it was about being a net positive in someone else's life.

It comes off as cold and selfish.

[inconceivable]

yeah, so you took something i didn't say, and just made it up. you even gave me an opinion on this made up topic. that's called a straw man. that's the literal definition of one. i know, you're probably the kind of person who doesn't usually commit logical fallacies. except when you do, of course. either way:

be fit, make money, don't be needy, dress well, be good at sex, work hard to overcome height/race, move past breakups, keep working to improve.

these are somehow selfish? HAHA okay buddy. then again, hey you know you could NOT follow my advice, and

be fat, broke, needy, schlubby, lame at sex, lazy, heartbroken, and give up.

[habinero]

If you want to do them, fine. But they're not going to make you successful at relationships, because everything about them has to do with you.