[teachrdan]

There's a good chance your 13-year-old is hooking up and about 100% chance she's hearing about friends hooking up. A guide like that is useful for identifying healthy and unhealthy behaviors around consent, health, and emotions.

Have you actually read this book? Or are you making assumptions based on the title?

[paulddraper]

I included the title and its own summary.

And FWIW, the age of consent in the U.S. is 16+.

13...my goodness man...

[teachrdan]

"Hookups" encompasses activity other than sexual intercourse. This book would likely help its readers negotiate how to engage in that activity safely and with consent. And 13-year-olds hook up with each other, as do kids 14 and older, which your daughter will in all likelihood become.

Again, if you had bothered to actually read the book, rather than make a snap judgment based on a one-sentence summary on the internet, you'd probably be better informed.

[paulddraper]

> "Hookups" encompasses activity other than sexual intercourse.

Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex. An empowering guide to casual sex and hooking up

Dude, stop trying to teach 13-year-olds how to have casual sex.

[shrimp_emoji]

Dude, what an enlightened comeback.

Fwiw, I think psychologists would say it's healthier than stigmatizing sex and pretending it's a concept that pops into existence once people turn 16 or 18. (Ironically, some people are molested way before that age and don't even understand what's happening and why it's bad -- probably because they had no educational resources on the subject thanks to attitudes like yours.)

[pixl97]

The age of consent and the age teens are having sex with other teens are two different things.

[GloomyBoots]

The average age of first sexual intercourse in the US is ~17 for both boys and girls, and rising. The hypersexuality of adolescents is overstated in popular media, though probably varies by region. I grew up in a pretty promiscuous environment, and even there, while there were 13-year-olds having sex, and we were aware of it, that was by far the minority experience.

[pixl97]

And minority experiences are not allowed? How would that be any different from "5% of the population is gay, so we're just not going to allow that to be talked about"?

[paulddraper]

The difference is that it's a destructive behavior.

If 5% of teens use drugs, we're going to team them how to score fentanyl-free coke?

[teachrdan]

This is a foolish comparison. You never want your kids to do cocaine. You do, in all likelihood, want them to have sex at some point.