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by testacct22 1105 days ago
> Since there are few male teachers, the boys without a strong father figure at home never get taught how to channel their masculine energy in a healthy way

I'll give an alternative perspective: people who talk this way try to shame men into traditional "masculine" roles

I'm not just talking about hetero vs queer either. More like, pressuring men to "care about" the marriage -> kids -> nuclear family life track. Or pressuring men to (implicitly) see women as sex objects

Something I've realized: whenever someone talks about this "crisis", they're always making some implicit demand on how other people should live

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that goes both ways. For sure I know exactly what you're talking about. I see this a lot in deeply religious movements. That said, its not particularly helpful to go from "you must participate in daily prayer" to "you must participate in pride." They key here is Tolerence. you don't have to like it or partificpate in it, you just have to accept that what other people do is fine as long as its not harming anybody. Sadly, neither the extreme right or the extreme left seem to get this.