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by haswell 1097 days ago
I’d argue that the fear of failure still boils down to underlying beliefs about:

- What it actually means to fail

- That failure is inherently bad

- What will happen next after failure occurs

- What it says about me when fail

- What others will think about me when I fail

- That I can’t recover from failure

etc.

If you grow up hearing that failure is bad/wrong/implies something about you as a person, it might never occur to you that another framing is that life is a series of experiments, and failure can be one of the best ways to zero in on success (in some cases, this may be the only possible way).

As far as I can tell, it’s beliefs all the way down, and adjusting certain beliefs can fundamentally transform experience relative to all downstream implications of that belief.

2 comments

Fail fast. You'll learn real quick from failure - often far more than from success, at least in my experience.

It sucks, but creatively speaking, I think it's better to knock out a few failures early than to enjoy success for awhile and fail later.

the best attitudes are an acquired taste. losing is fun!