[puma_ambit]

We all want to feel like we're in control of our own lives but none of us ever are. The trade off is when you focus on one thing inevitably other things will suffer as people can't do two things at once. Best bet is to realize there are lots of tasks that need done (and no you can't plan a perfect calendar to do it all) and all you can do is find a system that takes all the incoming tasks that need to be done, prioritize them, set a due date and forget about them and only do the things that are required of you that day. I found Todoist years ago and have found great levels of success using it. Good luck!