[motogpjimbo]

> So let me see if I understand this thread.

You realise you've been arguing with multiple people expressing multiple opinions, right? You appear to be prone to binary thinking, so it might not be clear to you that your opponents don't form a single monolith.

> tl;dr if you're not offended by 4chan they're not actually saying anything offensive about you even though it might appear so superficially; 4chan just has a different list of things you can't say.

I'm not offended by the things 4chan users say because I don't visit 4chan. You should try it yourself. Getting so upset by words you disagree with on one forum that you feel the need to froth at the mouth about it on another forum doesn't seem healthy.

[Spivak]

Yes, and in threaded discussions if you jump in in the middle like this it's assumed you're continuing the downward trajectory of the discussion. Otherwise you would have replied to someone higher up the thread. I'm in no way assuming that you hold any opinion in particular just that the discussion has circled back.

I think you assume a tone that I absolutely do not have. I couldn't care less about 4chan drama and I don't go there anymore for the reasons you listed. I'm talking about my own experience and trying to make my case for the, apparently controversial, idea that words can and do affect people and that total emotional detachment is the exception rather than the rule. And of course that's the case, 4chan's whole thing is using offensive language to select specifically for the subset of people who can tolerate it.