[swimorsinka]

For me, it's been more useful to look at these relationships through the lens of reciprocity. Am I in a reciprocal relationship with this friend/coworker or not?

In my friendships, am I doing most of the work to text, call, or hangout or is it relatively equal? At work, if I do something that helps you, do you help me in return, or do you turn around and screw me over?

Getting away from the relationships which are non reciprocal has given me a lot of mental peace over the past few years. Most people are not like this, but something like 1/5 to 1/10 of people are.