[JenrHywy]

I've been thinking about this some more. Decision-making around parenting is extremely bizarre.

Parenting seems like an example of L.A. Paul's "vampire problem" - where you're such a different person after an event that it's not possible to evaluate it as the person you are before the event. But it's actually more complicated than that.

If I had to choose between being completely destitute and one of my kids' lives, it's not even a decision. But when considering if to have another child, comfort and affordability have a huge influence - even though, as a parent I already know that the moment the child is born, they would become incomprehensibly precious to me.

So I have the ability to bring into existence something would for certain massively increase the joy and purpose in my life, and yet I don't... for the same reasons that I criticized you for in a sibling comment.