[SuoDuanDao]

10 000 hours is the number observed among elite performers (Olympic athletes, chess grandmasters, concert level musicians and the like) - I don't think most people complaining about the difficulty of contemporary dating are aiming to be in the top 1%.

[tchaffee]

That's a fair point. Nothing like 10,000 hours is required for most people to attract and keep someone who fits their criteria.

But the point was that if you're blaming other people or something like hypergamy instead of improving yourself then you're just looking for excuses.