[Jun8]

Dear lorettahe, from your replies to some comments here I got a sense that you give in a bit too easily to (perceived) "authority". Look at you, you are (probably) young and already have three high profile jobs (as we see from your LinkeIn profile). I'm 40+ and have had only one job so far. So while making use of experiences and advice offered by other people also filter them: not everyone on HN is wiser or more experienced than you.

When other people offer "rules" like don't use this word, don't do this or that, think for yourself rather than taking hythloday's, clarevans' or my comments at face value: Why is it wrong to use girl, what are the causes of sexism in the workplace, what evidence or arguments do these people offer. For me, a big part of what separates hackers from the masses is this questioning of authority , curiosity, and thinking for ourselves. I wonderful book in this regard is Christopher Hitchens' Letters to a Contrarian.

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P.S. And do submit stories and comment more often on HN!