[makeitdouble]

I feel we have "depression" the same way we get "colds", try to rest hoping it goes away. Most of the time it does, and sometimes it's something else completely, but in contrast to colds, we have no good tool to properly diagnose the exact illnesses, and are probably lumping together myriads of different things under the "depression" umbrella.

That also matches how treatment for depression often involves throwing spaghetti at the wall and see what method and treatment sticks. Even medication usually goes through trying different chemistries a month or two at a time and see what has any effect.

I've had friends who went out of depression by quitting their soul crushing jobs to start solo businesses. I expected they would slack a bit more and be more relaxed as self employed, but from the sidelines they looked way more busy, working way harder and longer than before. Except it seemed to work for them and they're still doing i years later.

Your story kind of resonates the same to me, and I assume the family building part can be proxied by different goals, stuff that actually matter and bring sense to what someone is doing in life and/pr a different human environment. It might not work for everyone, but I agree there must be a sizeable portion of "depressed" people who's cure are not more medication or less work, but radical changes in other aspects of their life.

[m463]

> I feel we have "depression" the same way we get "colds", try to rest hoping it goes away.

There's lots of evidence that doing the opposite of rest - aerobically exercising - helps tremendously with depression (and lots of other issues).

[makeitdouble]

I meant "rest" in respect to work. In many countries a letter from a doctor certifying a depression diagnostic means a month to several months of mandatory leave.

It usually comes with medical followup and regular checkups, and the general advice I heard was to take peaceful walks, or simply going outside, and cut ties from the environment where the issue rose from for a while.

[TeMPOraL]

> but in contrast to colds, we have no good tool to properly diagnose the exact illnesses

Isn't this the case with "colds" too? At least in practice.

Maybe it's my bad luck, or location-specific (Poland, EU) - but ever since I became a parent (and saw myself visiting doctors 10x as often as before), I've started to notice that, unless it's one of few very specific diseases, you just can't seem to get any diagnosis for a "cold" from a doctor. They'll prescribe you/your kid some meds or treatments, but nowhere in the conversation they say "you have ${specific illness}". No such information seems to show in medical documents either. If I ask, they always manage to deflect the question without even acknowledging it (I haven't tried to insist yet, I don't want to be rude to someone who's nice and helping me).

Is this because they genuinely don't know anything beyond "one of many pathogens that cause this group of symptoms", but it doesn't matter because they all respond to the same treatment options (or don't respond to anything, and you're just treating symptoms)? Or is there a practice of not giving such information to patients?