[seba_dos1]

> When did everyone suddenly start spending what seems to be a non negligible amount of time worrying if they are affected by this or that or that or this?

I don't spend time "worrying if I may be affected". Who does?

My reaction to reading up on the topic was "oooooh, so many things that didn't make sense about my behavior suddenly make sense now". It was a happy moment.

Reading up more, I started to find advice that actually works. Which was extremely refreshing, as most of the advice I was getting before outright failed, regardless of how hard I tried to implement it. Now I know why.

Are you sure you aren't fighting a straw man?

Mindlessly "toughing it out" is exactly how you end up with people who aren't responsible and independent and have no slightest clue on why or how to change it.