[ailurooo]

I've used & self hosted matrix and it's... alot to manage and managing the encryption per each device is a headache. It's getting better, and it's getting towards the end of a rewrite using go for it's backend (dendrite) and rust( i think) for it's front end clients (element x). Personally having something that's "modern" and supports all of the silly chat stuff people come to expect, like custom emoji, emoji reacts, and stuff going to ease alot of people into using this rather than xmpp.

I have friends that use xmpp and it's liked for being boring and stable however i doubt non-techy young people will want to adopt it without all of the modern niceties that you have with like discord or matrix.