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by xyzzy4747 1143 days ago
It’s not necessary but perhaps date someone from a culture where they almost never divorce - I married an Indian and brought her here on a visa. The divorce rate there is one of the lowest in the world, about 1%.
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Isn't the low Indian divorce rate due to extreme cultural pressure to remain together and a court system that is extremely limiting in who can divorce, not an indicator that the marriages are happy or fulfilling?
I mean I just have my ideas, so maybe this isn’t correct, but I think Indians treat family relationships more like a single unit as opposed to US culture where everyone acts more like an individual (even people within a marriage) and finds reasons to prioritize going their own path. What you’re saying may have elements of truth too.

My N=1 experience is my relationship is very happy and fulfilling.

Marriage with spouse resentful that you locked her is not all that great. And since the plan is the "I do zero effort and get stuff from spouse" chances of resentment are high.
Hopefully your spouse doesn't die or end up disabled. Marriages can end/the spouse can stop being the social engine for reasons that aren't divorce.