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by SketchySeaBeast 1143 days ago
> Get married. Have kids.

Man, compared to the other two, that is a line that's doing a lot of heavy lifting.

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Yeah I think getting married is what happens after you solve your loneliness problem, not before.
If not marriage (though it should be) DEFINITELY before kids.
What? It is opposite. Having kids make you lonely especially when they are little. It is super isolating even if you are not the primary care provider.
That's why you need to solve your loneliness stuff out before you have kids.
When you have kids you have no time to be lonely.
I think with caregiving of any type, there can be a split between loneliness and isolation. When I was the the caregiver for my mom when she was sick, I had no time to feel lonely, but after a few months the isolation of the situation really began to play tricks on my mind. It felt like my entire world shrank to just that house, everyone I ever knew became text bubbles on a phone, and the rest of my life that had happened up to that point felt like a dream that may or may not have actually happened.