>So now I associate that word with all the problematic aspects of the book and assume the person using it is either using the word without having read the book or didn't see a problem with the book when they did read it. Neither really makes me think highly of the person.
You cannot separate the book and person reading the book. Its ok to disagree, its ok to have different views.
Where are you getting the idea I can't separate the book from the person reading it? I've personally read the book. I have no problem with people reading it or even enjoying it.
My comment was on people who are regularly referencing the book by using the word "grok". When you do that, you are intentionally associating yourself with the book and implying other people should read the book if they don't want to feel left out.
You cannot separate the book and person reading the book. Its ok to disagree, its ok to have different views.