[giantg2]

I'm a failure. I didn't live up to my potential. I'm lazy. Nothing I do works anymore. My career is in jeopardy because I'm "slow".

My main cause would be naivete. I believed all the stuff you're taught about the world in schools, by parents, etc. I believed the company when they told me stuff like they don't outsource or layoff. I'm wasn't aggressive enough to go after promotions or switch jobs. This resulted in me (dev, masters, 10+ yoe) living in a med-high COL making close to $100k with a family to support.

[226_ebro_treaty]

I'd love to fail into making $100k :-)

[giantg2]

Well I might not be making it much longer with my bad ratings. Plus, it's not a lot for supporting a family (lower cost areas would be different).

[226_ebro_treaty]

I understand. Hope you make it through your current difficult situation, and get to a better place. Wish you the best of luck!

I just wanted to point out that to consider yourself a failure because you're "only" making 100k is a bit ridiculous. Going by that metric, 99% of the world's population is a failure. You're not a failure. You've just fallen through some hard times. Try your best, and you'll be out of them soon enough.

Virtual hug.

[giantg2]

"you're "only" making 100k is a bit ridiculous. Going by that metric, 99% of the world's population is a failure."

Ok, I'll put it a different way - houshold income is below the 50th percentile for the area. So by that measure, 50% of the world population is doing better than I am on a location-based relative measure.

[xupybd]

One job that is a bad fit does not define you. You are probably not as bad as you think. This might not be the job that best suites you. Don't give up.

[_fvh3]

From an outside perspective OP sound really pretentious and a show off, though I think he is mischaracterising failure as a "missed goal"

[giantg2]

Sure it does. I don't have any other options and it will define my life through the hours I spend there and the income I derive from it.

[_fvh3]

Thank you for sharing your situation

If you don't mind me asking, are you the only person in your household with a significant income & do you live in a country with social services for childcare?

[giantg2]

Yes, and not really. Although childcare is not a barrier in our situation.

[_fvh3]

Sorry, to clarify I meant: Is state-funded childcare an option in the country you reside in?