[pmg101]

I agree with many elements of your argument here.

I would personally add though that there are multiple "you"s. I like to imagine the elephant, and the rider. The elephant (habitual, non-conscious behaviour) is powerful, strong and hard to redirect.

BUT in the end the rider IS in control. It's worth looking for strategies to help the rider, to give them a better chance, and to strengthen their ability to do so over time.