[jstarfish]

People beat themselves up about this a lot. White people love to hate themselves.

Sure, your employer will reward your commitment by laying you off once you're of age, but it doesn't take much to end up estranged from your adult kids despite a lifetime of effort expended there either.

Hold out for grandchildren. It's the fun part of parenting without the responsibilities.

[CalRobert]

I don't beat myself up about this. Hating myself is why I let myself be abused with obscene on-call for years. Respecting myself and deciding what I cared about in life is what allowed me to quit that job, even though it was secure.