[throwaway71271]

i never ran this in prod, so not sure

i think the retries are a bit strange, and debugging was weirder as well, but its probably just me not used to it

even though i had multiple chances to use it in prod, i always go for http somehow, it just feels so familiar

also because of the way the REPLY_TO address:port worked in my experiments, sometimes having half open tcp connections really messes up things