However, when you have 10 nodes and need to add one more node, you now need to update all other nodes so they can speak p2p. Management with scale is the struggle.
For servers sure, but things like `tailscale` exist to save every laptop and cell phone from looking like a devops project.
Furthermore you could extend this argument almost every other cloud service with a primary feature of "convenience" and/or "management". Just build everything yourself.