[2bluesc]

Had similar feelings and did like it more then I thought I could.

My escape hatch from the monopoly is headscale[0] which I can self host.

[0] https://github.com/juanfont/headscale

[xena]

You can even host Headscale over Tailscale, amusingly: https://tailscale.dev/blog/headscale-funnel