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> Given that the divorce rate in my community is less than 1% we're probably doing something right.

Or something wrong. Low divorce rate doesn't mean low unhappiness rate. I know several men and women in utterly trash relationships, who'd be better off alone, but who stay married because "this is the way".

It's a mix of "must have kids at all costs" (even if that cost is the parents and kids having awful lives because they weren't a good match), and "must be and stay married at all costs if we have a kid".

Hey, I can't know what your community is like. But my guess, it's part of the many communities that have this problem. But that's not to disagree with your first paragraph; when you're with a partner, you do stand by them, you don't just treat them like a phone and upgrade to a newer and shinier model every few months/years. But also, you don't have to put up with them if you find out they're a terrible person.

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The flip side, of course, is couples throwing completely repairable relationships in the garbage can and creating lifelong issues for their kids.

I think a lot of pro-divorce people would be surprised at what couples can recover from if they're prepared to work at it.