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by atemerev 1166 days ago
Judging from the number of downvotes, either I am even more socially inept than I ever thought before, or this is a genuine cultural difference.
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In this case, it's because the teacher is now left not knowing whether they have an opening in their schedule for the student or not.

This is a freelance teacher who is responsible for finding her own clients and managing her own schedule. If you let them know that you won't be taking any more lessons, they can find another student. If you lie to them and they think you'll be back for your lesson next week, they aren't going to look for another student to fill your time slot. So when you don't show up, you've just cost them to opportunity to earn money from someone else.

If I were in the same situation, I would absolutely institute a policy of continuing to bill for the student's time slot until they formally cancel services. Given the level of conflict avoidance being practiced here, I foresee such a policy being quite profitable.

I assume they have paid in advance already, as I inferred from text. And yes, of course, everyone bills until formal cancellation, at least here in Switzerland.
They don't owe an explanation, but if two people have an ongoing relationship the one ending it should say "it's over" or "bye", not just leave the other hanging.

It's just a basic level of respect to not waste others time with wondering if it's over or not.

People should also be expected to be able to read the context and not need explicit confirmation or denial. It's rude and pushy to chase people and try to pressure them into saying yes and force them into saying no.
I can't help but disagree. In order to avoid miscommunication, people should be as accurate and clear in their communication as possible. It's not rude or pushy to expect clear and plain language, especially when dealing across cultural and linguistic barriers. Expecting people to read a context that varies widely between and even within a culture is unreasonable.