[freitzkriesler2]

Did you go to school in Japan? If not, then did it not occur to you that a Japanese student studying abroad would need either a work permit or a marriage visa to stay? She probably was expecting you to propose and since you didn't she left because she had to.

[izzydata]

I went to school in the US and she is not actually from Japan. Both her parents were from Japan though despite her being born in the US. It could be a coincidence and have nothing to do with this Japanese cultural phenomenon, but it seemed pretty relevant to what I experience.

[freitzkriesler2]

Good to know. Cheers mate.

[crummy]

I don't think that makes ghosting after 4 years OK.