[p0d]

I like you approach to life. Over a 30 year period l loved my first job, didn't love my second job, and now love my third job.

I got into self-protection in my second job. A mindset of, I am doing the best I can here, if it's not good enough sack me. It seemed like a clever mindset at the time, but doesn't now. It probably translated as I was unhappy and didn't feel valued. I am still unpacking this though.

[tomcam]

> A mindset of, I am doing the best I can here, if it's not good enough sack me.

Or maybe you just have a robust self-image? If it's that, I think it's a strong adaptation.

> I am still unpacking this though.

I went through years of therapy & many therapists. Got almost nothing out of it. Much of my childhood still lives with me for some reason. So... same here! One thing I love about programming is that it has far fewer of the kind of gray areas that I couldn't navigate as a kid. Can't tell you how much I love that when a program runs right, I can usually be assured it will continue to run right. It's totally awesome to have a job where you can be provably correct a lot of the time.

[p0d]

> Or maybe you just have a robust self-image? If it's that, I think it's a strong adaptation

Thank you. I think there was truth in my point of view. I always wished I could express it in a less aggressive manner.

I also had a difficult childhood. I'm in my 50s and still working it out. I have had a great life and have the most wonderful wife and two adult children.

I have found family, friends and work is not a bad order of priorities.