[simple-thoughts]

Exactly this. Politeness is a way to allow social functioning in spite of bad behaviors. Different individual with different cultures and families will have different ideas about what is right and wrong. Politeness creates a field of communication that can allow those discussions to happen without physical in person violence.

[watwut]

Physically violent people will physically attack you regardless of whether you are polite. They may even interpret your politeness as weakness. They may attack you because they are getting something out of it, or because it is fun to them.

And people who are not violent wont attack you even if you are rude.

[simple-thoughts]

There’s no clear black and white categories of “violent” and “nonviolent” humans. Human on human violence has been a part of Homo sapiens as far back as there are archaeological records. Anyone can become violent given the right circumstances, both male and female. Socializing ie domestication is necessary to reduce violence but it can still re-emerge at any time.

Don’t blame yourself for being misinformed: there was a period where anthropological and archaeological evidence was believed to indicate humans are naturally non violent. Recent evidence and analysis has proven otherwise. Humans are capable of both incredible kindness as well as violence.

See: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/ancient-brutal...

[watwut]

There is actually clear difference between violent and non violent people in our society. Or any society. Some people won't beat you up, be ause they have self control and values.

Other people will beat you, because they have opposite.

Do not blame yourself for thinking archeological evidence has anything relevant to do with the actual topic at hand. It does not. And plus, it does not prove or disprove what I said. You just misunderstends what archeology can or can not prove.