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by bitsinthesky
1168 days ago
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It surprises me that anyone can defend using speech distorted with such euphemistic, and even worse imprecise, language when dealing with another person. Respecting a person means transparency and simplicity. Allow the other person to interpret situations how they would, even if it's in a way you haven't molded. Playing with vague language that gives you the moral throne is a method of gas lighting. The applicable example being how an intimate pizza party made somebody feel "unsafe" and "unloved". Too extreme! What other purpose could such language have than to initiate a power play? |
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Well, let's put the ball back in your court: how would you rewrite that pizza party example to be less euphemistic and imprecise?
Frankly, the wording the guest used is direct and to-the-point. It's probably disarming/distressing to hear if you're the host, but it's not therapy speak. If someone tells you that you make them feel unsafe, you should probably resolve that. Responding with denial that you could have hurt someone's feelings is the dictionary definition of gaslighting.