[dangus]

I don't really think it's therapy or therapy-speak doing this, I think it's just a bunch of anecdotal stories about a bunch of dang danguses.

A whole lot of people just don't have great EQ or IQ and they're just frustrating to deal with overall.

Maybe the new therapy-speak language is different but the underlying problems remains the same. Whether or not I use therapy speak, I'm not going to continue being friends with people who have are/become more pain than pleasure.

[_ptgt]

I don’t know. I think you’re right that the root cause is low EQ either way, but at least the low EQ used to be expressed in each’s own personal manner. Your friend/ex/family member might have been an ass but at least they were the ass you had come to know and maybe appreciate to some extent, and that fosters empathy. When they phrase assery in therapy speak, it feels like all of a sudden your familiar relationship has become one-sided and impersonal. And before at least they had to make an effort to justify being a dang dangus — another opportunity to foster empathy.

There’s also a real conflict of interest in therapy where the therapist has a financial interest in pleasing the client but no stake in the wellbeing of the client’s acquaintances (other than the value they provide to the client). Hence empowering them with generic therapy speak around boundaries seems like somewhat of a logical outcome of that (and anecdotally what I’ve observed in my own experiences with therapy and in others who go to therapy)

[nextlevelwizard]

>A whole lot of people just don't have great EQ or IQ and they're just frustrating to deal with overall.

>I'm not going to continue being friends with people who have are/become more pain than pleasure.

This is two-way street. A friend recently called me out on (to me) benign behavior, which now makes me feel like I have have to walk on egg shells when I interact with them. I am (almost) sure they didn't mean me to take this as seriously as I have, but I feel how this expired has pushed me to the very edge of the campfire and I am thinking about walking over to the next campfire to see how other people are doing.