[mock-possum]

Soooooo I’m guessing your nieces and nephews swear whenever they want, they’re just careful not to do it when dad is around to hear it.

I tend to favour my friends’ policy about swearing with their kids: everybody feels differently about it, so you have to be careful about swearing around other people until you know whether it’s okay with them. At home? Probably fine. At school? Probably need to be more careful about it.

It’s much more realistic to teach nuance than to outright forbid the behavior imo.

( Although I suppose we should probably acknowledge - 1) these are not our kids, and 2) every kid is different. Some kids appreciate the value of choosing your words to fit your audience, some adults never learned. )

[celu]

Except isn't them learning that there are certain people (like dad) to not swear around the whole goal?

[ilyt]

"You can be your honest self except near the parents" is kinda bad thing to teach imo.

Dad (probably) doesn't care, dad just doesn't want to be called to school by teacher when his kid repeats few swear-words.

[flangola7]

>Dad (probably) doesn't care, dad just doesn't want to be called to school by teacher when his kid repeats few swear-words.

I've been called by a school about my kids' swearing. I told them I don't see what the fucking problem is.

[Cthulhu_]

I mean if the language is not appropriate at school, then the school should educate them. There's plenty other behaviours expected at a school - that the school teaches them - that isn't expected at the home or other places.

[kevviiinn]

I'm not sure which comment you're reading, but the person you're replying to is talking about their friend's policy which explicitly states that there exist some people who you probably shouldn't swear around. It just isn't dad

[celu]

> Soooooo I’m guessing your nieces and nephews swear whenever they want, they’re just careful not to do it when dad is around to hear it.

My point is this isn't even a bad thing. As long as they learn to not swear around certain people (like dad), then that's what you want

[Cthulhu_]

> Soooooo I’m guessing your nieces and nephews swear whenever they want, they’re just careful not to do it when dad is around to hear it.

As a former child myself, that's exactly how it goes; the purpose of the exercise is not to forbid them to swear, it's to learn when it's appropriate.