Sorry if it came across too blunt, I actually mostly agree with parents point but just wanted to highlight the thin/ill-defined line betwee his approach and what I think people mean by gaslighting. This is interesting in my opinion because they seem to be so similar conceptually but are actually connotated in a very positive and negative way respectively.
I think I misinterpreted you! but that's one of the problems with low-information/provocative posts. Your follow-up post here is of course totally fine.
Even though WanderPanda's comment could have been written with more care (and thank you for your work in pointing this out), FWIW I think it's possible to charitably interpret it in interesting ways.