[Camisa]

I've seen ADHD person explain this as having every reason to do the task, know that they need to get started now, and yet, just can't get around to do it. I've certainly felt that in some scenarios in my life. It's like getting the timing to start doing the task is impossible and everything else, no matter how mundane, seems safer and more fulfilling to do.

It's like you are missing the drive to get that thing done to the point that your brain just tricks you into thinking that anything remotely productive seems more important and better to get started on now than the actual task. To me this is a rare occurrence, hence why I think I am not a ADHD person.

The problem to me is that this difficulty is hard to differentiate from self-discipline.

I suspect you will be less likely to feel that inability to get around to do the tasks that you know to be important to do it if you fail in a way that life itself, the universe, hurts you for the failure, as opposed to your boss saying "you're fired for showing up late".

I also suspect that some people use religion to fix this: Like picturing a higher being looking down and saying "Wherefore dost thou not now do that which thou must? Else, I shall smite thee from the heavens or cause thee great trouble in the afterlife."

[annie_muss]

"Just not getting round to it" is what my ADHD often feels like. Let's say I have to mail a package at the post office. I've got to write the address, pack it all up and then take it to the post office. At 9am in the morning I genuinely feel like I'm on the cusp of doing it. I glance at my watch "Oh, it's midday, better each lunch". No to worry, I'll get the package done right after lunch. 4pm rolls around and I realize that I might miss the closing time of the post of office so I rush to tape it up, write the address and hurry down there. I send it just in time. At any time of the day you could have asked me "Are you going to send that package now?" and I would honestly say "Yes, right away!" but somehow it doesn't happen. On one level I know myself well enough to have seen this play out hundreds of times, but I still think this time will be different. It still feels like I'm just about to send that package.

This happened on a much larger scale when I was in university. I had 18 months for my dissertation. Each week that went by I planned to write a small chunk of it, just to get going. In the end I wrote the entire thing a week before the deadline with my professor literally sitting next to me making me do it.

> I suspect you will be less likely to feel that inability to get around to do the tasks that you know to be important to do it if you fail in a way that life itself, the universe, hurts you for the failure, as opposed to your boss saying "you're fired for showing up late".

This is true up to a point. What ADHD people need is consequences ASAP. Your boss checking in on you every hour and providing constant pressure is much more effective than a meeting at the end of the month where your boss blows his top and fires you because you've done very little.

[charlieflowers]

> I've seen ADHD person explain this as having every reason to do the task, know that they need to get started now, and yet, just can't get around to do it. I've certainly felt that in some scenarios in my life. It's like getting the timing to start doing the task is impossible and everything else, no matter how mundane, seems safer and more fulfilling to do.

To the ADHD sufferers out there ... would you say this describes one of the most predominant symptoms? Would you say someone who reads this and says, "That's me," likely has ADHD?

[tekla]

Meh, I find it hard to differentiate this from just laziness. Im sure almost everyone has shit they dont want to do because they don't want to do it.

My thing is mostly that there is SO MUCH i want to do. I need to read this book, I need to practice this guitar, I need to respond to this email, I need to schedule an appointment.

Its not a matter of singular things that cause me issues, I just want to do so many things that I just kinda shut off.

[yibg]

That's my main challenge. Stuff I know I need to do, and often times they're not hard or time consuming. But for whatever reason I just can't seem to be able to get started. (after getting started things are often fine. In fact hard to stop)