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Sounds like you need a more drastic change to get you to snap out of your patterns. Maybe try moving to a new place? I suspect that if you move to a place that has been seeing a lot of population growth in the past couple of years (like Austin or Denver), it's probably easier to meet friends because there will be others in the same situation. You should also try to find an activity or hobby that you are into that has a social component to it. Or even something like volunteering or mentoring-- anything to get you out of the house and communicating more with people in the real world.