[emaste]

> The only orgs that tend to use BSD tend to not want to give back.

This isn't true. Looking at the last year of git commits I see significant contributions from a large number BSD-using companies and organizations. Looking at the top of the list (roughly sorted by commit count) we have:

  The FreeBSD Foundation
  Netflix
  Rubicon Communications, LLC ("Netgate")
  Klara, Inc
  Juniper Networks, Inc.
  Beckhoff Automation GmbH & Co. KG
  NVIDIA Networking
  Chelsio Communications
  DARPA
  AFRL
  NetApp, Inc.
  Arm Ltd
  Axcient
  Microsoft
  Intel Corporation
  Amazon, Inc.
  vStack
  UKRI
  Innovate UK
  Stormshield
  Modirum MDPay
  iXsystems, Inc
  Instituto de Pesquisas Eldorado (eldorado.org.br)
  Citrix Systems R&D
  Dell EMC Isilon

There are a couple of (admittedly high-profile) companies that use FreeBSD in their proprietary products with limited contribution to the community, but they are very much in the minority.