[hbrn]

> The abstraction of the ORM has created the illusion that you don't need to worry about this

It's not an illusion, it's an abstraction that sometimes leaks. But all abstractions are leaky.

There are plenty of projects that never reached a point where N+1 became something they needed to worry about. There are plenty of projects where ORM allowed to delay the need to worry about N+1, thus allowing them focus on product.

And that means that abstraction is working fine. It's not perfect, but it's working.