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My best idea: go to Meetups. You'll at least be able to pose your questions to actual live developers, in real-time, with followup questions (and multiple perspectives from different people). And you'll also hear general chatter that may alert you to issues you weren't even aware of.

Roger Ebert once said that when people give you career advice, they're really just retelling their own career's story -- either consciously or unconsciously telling you what to do or avoid based on only what happened specifically to them. The only real fix for that is to talk to multiple people.