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by 255kb 1188 days ago
I've been working (mostly) solo on an open-source application for the last 5 years (3 years as a side-project, last 2 years full-time). It has been a lot of ups and downs with a burn out in the middle.

Among the downs: having FOMO when I wasn't working on the project during week ends, feeling guilty for not spending time with my family when I was working too much on it, feeling lonely and doubting all my decisions, thinking that I will never succeed, thinking that all the user requests/issues are urgent, etc.

What helps:

- having friends who can help a bit, give advice, or at least accept to be my rubber duck once in a while. It felt less lonely.

- understanding that I am in this for the long run, that nothing is really urgent, especially after working on the project for years already.

- setting very tiny goals and not expecting much output after a day of work. Instead of considering the release of the next feature as the only goal, I now focus on adding this menu, implementing this endpoint, writing the script for a new tutorial, etc. At the end of the day I have the impression that I did something even if the end goal is still far away.

- finding the right balance between building what people want and building something a bit funnier for once even if it's less popular or a "bet" that people will like it. I really dread working on the same things over and over again.

- accept that I cannot focus more than 3-5 hours during a day, and that doing some sport in the middle of the day or taking care of my kids is definitely more important and keep me sane. Usually I get back to work refreshed with new ideas.

- having positive feedback from users, or growing analytics is keeping me motivated. It must be harder to work on something before its release I guess. I would release as soon as possible to get these signals that what I am doing is making a difference, aven if small.

2 comments

I totally agree with what you're saying. I am in the B2B space and still trying to get my first client. I guess it gets a bit easier once you have someone to talk about your product.
I am in the same boat (10 years project, 2 years full-time), and share the exact same feelings. It's very hard to find the work-life balance, I am still working on finding it.

What motivates me the most is customers emailing me asking for specific things, or keeping me accountable.