[kroolik]

What arguments have you used to finally convince them?

[zomgwat]

Several things helped her accept the situation.

1. We regularly share photos through private photo albums. This allows her the same exposure to photos of the grandchildren as social media would.

2. We made it clear she's free to share photos with people via direct text messages. It adds a bit of friction and keeps the photos relatively private.

3. Explained that it's the right of our children to control their presence online (with some parental assistance). They aren't old enough to do that so until then, please don't share.

4. Emphasize many times that it's about protecting and empowering our kids. It's not about preventing her from showing off her grandchildren.

[MarkMarine]

We do this as well, specifically #1 we do through apple's private shared albums. It's quite good, we've got a big chunk of the family on there, so people comment as I assume they would on Facebook. This has assuaged their (proud grandparents) urge to post photos on their other social media, I think. I'm not on Facebook so I'm not positive what they are doing on there, but the banal comments that show up in the family feed remind me of why I'm not.

[jjulius]

I commented elsewhere and mentioned that #1 is the path we took. That said, while we encountered next to no resistance on this policy from our family, we've found that in practice, my mother really thrives on #2, to the point where I'm confident that our broader family/friends group gets pictures directly from her and hardly bothers visiting my private gallery.