Both at the Catholic Church for thinking it's a good idea to snoop into the sexuality of their clergy - it's 2023 ffs, the Lutherans and Old Catholics [1] have shown that gays and women are no threat to spirituality - and at Grindr for not giving the slightest fuck about the safety of their users in a world where simply being gay can and does get people executed.
> The clergy opt in to being part of this abusive sect. Nobody forces them to associate with the church.
The situation particularly with Catholics is a bit more complex than that. A number of Catholic clergy originate from young boys raised in strongly religious families who discover they're gay and go into clergydom after they finish school in the (vain) hope that God may lessen their sexual desires.
They're not forced into church by conventional means, but rather by brainwashing.
> If they don't like the treatment they receive at a job, they can quit. Having abusive and discriminatory bosses is a great reason to GTFO.
Employment conditions outside of the church aren't great. Your choice is either a different faith (such as Old Catholicism) or academia.
Leaving abusive and discriminatory bosses is certainly a good idea, but it doesn't mean that we can't be outraged by the actions of abusive and discriminatory bosses.
[1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Old_Catholic_Church