[gitgud]

> I end up eventually absolutely hating being told what to do or how to build something, especially when it seems to me like it's clearly a terrible way of doing something or if I feel like I could have come up with a much better approach

Firstly it sounds like you're arrogant, and believe your solution's are superior, which may not be true. Secondly if your solution was actually better, then why didn't the team consider it? A good workplace would value your idea, regardless of your title.

> and please don't worry about offending me, if there's some cold hard truth I need to hear it's OK, just let me have it.

I would say you need to be more humble, don't think your ideas are "a better approach" until you've proven them to be.

But also join a company that values each individual's contributions, rather than passing orders down.

Lastly don't "hate" anyone, reserve that space in your head for more constructive things