They’re not just calling out though. They’re condescending with their “airquotes”, they’re stereotyping with their broad strokes.
It’s not useful criticism to simply say “this community was such-and-such”. I’d expect them to do better. Speak specifically to people saying something you disagree with. Don’t let it fester within you and then take it out on a broad group.
And I know you didn’t do any of this, but you did seem to be defending some pretty low quality behaviour.