| I don't have any advice as am in a similar predicament albeit I'd consider myself less mature (25M just finished uni) and have mild Aspergers/ADHD Anyways my dad died abt 6 yrs ago. At the time of his death our financial situation was already dire. We had sold our house for roughly 70,000$. 20,000$ was used to pay off loans that had accrued a lot of interest as my dad had lost his job and my mother had no source of income.
My mother decided to put the remaining 50,000$ into a shady sacco that promised significant monthly returns. I was obviously skeptical and vehemently opposed this as it was a good chunk of our net worth. The sacco's leader stole all the money (no surprise). His religious fascade is what made people trust him the most including mom. I was 17 at the time. Everything just started to fall apart. We got evicted 2 yrs later and moved in to a small 2 bedroom apartment (which we reside in to this day). My dad died of a suspected heart condition (similar to yours) but inherited some lands from my grandfather. We managed to sell them over the yrs (for sustenance, rent, 2 siblings school fees and my college tuition) but we've finally exhausted any wealth we had. I still sleep on the couch or mattress (both equally uncomfortable) as the place isn't big enough for all of us. It's taken a toll on my back and neck. Am always sore even though am just 25! I just graduated. I'm about to start earning some good money and also bootstrap my start up. I'll afford to have my own place and honestly feels unreal. I finally have a chance to be on my own, buy food when I'm hungry e.t.c. My mom is still unemployed. My sister has recently started having psychiatric issues and struggling to find work (stress and suspected bipolar). My brother (15M) is very obstinate with regards to his academics despite my constant effort to explain our current financial situation. I'm going to leave the moment I get my salary. I feel like a portal to freedom just spawned. Definitely will support my mom but not to the point I end up dirt broke again. I don't want the burden of responsibility if I'm being frank but also don't want to abandon anyone. Life is about to change but isn't it always. I just wrote this to let you know you're not alone. I won't sacrifice myself and happiness but then again I don't expect you to ape me as I am not giving advice. Seeing someone going through a similar situation is oddly comforting. I wish you all the best my internet friend |