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by Temporarily21
1206 days ago
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I worry the most about my sister. My mum said today she wanted to study abroad Operrete. My mother is handling this poorly also. With father this was doable now it seems like childish dreams to me. I do not want to have a serious talk about growing up as I am afraid she will go crazy because life is now unfair. It will be a week in a couple of hours since we found out. Dad was well meaning. She collected the money from reading books(could go up to 100eur a month) and I guess for birthday, dad took the money, added some and bought her the iphone. I do not think she is spoilt but was raised to like good things and educate. Two days ago she asked if mother could buy her an ice cream, they would usually buy it at a discount for 3euro but now it cost 6eur. Sis said it is expensive and sadly accepted the fate. But mum bought it anyway, because well father wouldn’t have said no. Mum also said that she will continue eating good food but less if money is tight. The point is quality over quantity always and being realistic. Again about serious talk with sister - I sometimes feel like being harsh and saying things like “dad’s gone, now is the time to grow up, you need to forget about your childish dreams and choose something realistic” might relieve me of some of the stress but I do not think is for the best for anyone of us, especially because I feel bad about it afterwards. |
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You/Your Mother (the two people who are earning now) need to be Pragmatic and very strict when it comes to Money/Finance. If you go down the economic level (eg. poverty threshold) it will be very hard to build yourself back up again. There is also the possibility that a single illness can wipe you out financially not to mention the ripple effect ruining everybody's life.
So have that chat with everybody in the family (and in particular, with your Sister) as a group so that everybody understands the gravity of the situation and can deliver on their Responsibilities while keeping their spirits up. If you all stick together, you can definitely make it to a better place in Life.
Also since you seem to be in the EU check whether there are any social safety net plans that your family can qualify for. This can be a huge boost to future success.