[barrysteve]

You personally need to gather good relationships. Psyhc, church, sports, friends, ect. Whichever works.

Having good people around you can help give you perspective from other mothers, fathers, people who have lost family and more so you can share the mental weight and focus on what really needs attention.

The old saying it takes a village to raise a child, is true but it's also good to keep people around you for your health.

Best of luck!

[Temporarily21]

What is psych?

[barrysteve]

Psychologist. You might have heard the most common suggestions about places to find people who can help you, so I put in some generic ones that worked for me.

Chatting to friends who have had/raised teenagers before sometimes have good perspective about what your 16yr old sister is going through and if you need to do anything about it, or let it run it's course.

It helps you keep it together when you can run some ideas past people who have met your family members and know a little bit of the context, because they can relate better to your specific situation, maybe see a fresh direction for you as an option/suggestion and reduce the impact of things that appear to be a greater problem then they are, whenever that happens.

I don't know if I should type out literal examples, feels odd because I don't know how to relate to you without having met you irl, so my examples will probably be inaccurate.

Anyway what I mean is, you've got a lot relationships to manage by your own reckoning, so I suggest sharing the workload with good friends, social workers and community members who are in a good position to help. A stronger social network could lift enough weight that you can get on with your own dreams again... potentially.

Good luck!