[sim7c00]

Very sorry for your loss, this is hard to digest, and I can understand all manner of thoughts go through your head during such a trying time.

You are together with your mum, sister, and grandmother, caring for _eachother_. They care for you, you care for them.

Not to sound too harsh, but we're not in the 50s or 60s anymore. We know today women are strong, capable and most of all caring. If you struggle with life currently, talk to them about it. They can help you atleast as much as you can help them.

Communicating openly and honestly about your feelings with them is incredibly important.

Don't worry about seeming weak to them - they will see right through your mask anyway as they are your relatives. Most likely you will find, that the expectations you put on yourself, do not match the expectations they have from you.

Hang in there!

[bko]

While it's true women are capable and strong, the benefits of a 16 year old girl having a strong male influence in her life is very large. Don't fall back on platitudes about everyone being independent. Make no mistake, from what you said there is a huge hole left in your family from the passing of your father. Your instinct is right that you should step in as much as you can.

There is nothing I can say to make it easier. But you should try to see this new role as an opportunity to give back to the people that raised you. I personally get great meaning and satisfaction from serving the people i love. I wish you the best of luck.

[Temporarily21]

How can I be a good role model to my sister? It is her that I worry about the most.

I mentioned in another comment that in two years she wants to go to Poland to study Operette. I told to my mother that this is on her. My sister doesn’t speak Polish even, she won’t have that financial support. I don’t know what to do. Do I continue like my father? He gave her some money(up to 100eur a month)for reading and good grades. I could do 50 easy. Do I try to have other hobbies and maybe something will peak her interest. I don’t know, I myself am hobbyless.

[Temporarily21]

Thanks! Most comments here assume they expect everything from me. I don’t think so.

[thr0wnawaytod4y]

Talk to them about it