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by oifjsidjf 1202 days ago
>> First thing she said was that I have to become worthy of my father.

You don't need to be worthy of anyone but yourself. That is manipulation that parents/grandparents do on their children and it's horribly destructive as it will only riddle you with guilt. F** living up to your father, do the things that vibe with you.

Your sister will (somehow) need to come to terms that $$ is needed in life. If money is scarce then stop paying for her lessons and tell her to get a part time job as she must come to understand asap that things cost $$ in real life.

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Also: you suffer what most people suffer: the indoctrination that "you have to support your siblings or parents": YOU DO NOT! Or more precisely: if they are ignorant and do not understand the harsh reality of the situation you find yourself in then you OWN THEM NOTHING. Only support those who also do everything in their (limited) power to support the family. Freeloaders are to be ignored and ghosted!

You young sister might not be able to bring in a lot of money, but she can atleast get a part time job to cover her own expenses/hobbies. Everyone can do what they can.

But if they refuse to do atleast the things they can then it's byebye, not your problem anymore.

Imagine this scenario: if the women fail to understand that you have your own desire and will to live your own life and instead demand that you bend and destroy your own life so that they can do stupid stuff themselves: well, do you realize how selffish they are and how little they truly care about you?

My dad was a one of a kind man. Manly, good hearted and smart. People respected him, men and women. He took good care of everyone in my family. Me on the other hand, well..

As someone else said here, it is my duty to support them.