[Temporarily21]

Wow, I had an idea I might not have my own family but when you said it.. I wrote this last night, after I wrote it I calmed down and have slept the night since and it does not look so grim now. I might have put too much responsibility on my self. I believe you are right, I have to put my foot down. My mother has to continue working, I will pinch in. My sister will have to work when she studies and she might have to take out loans. My father would not have allowed that.

Besides that, my dad loved good expensive stuff. Honestly, I think I should take an example from him here. This is the third appartment he has bought. So after my mother receives compensation she should have four appartments without any debt. One is for them, one is for granma, one I guess will be sold/rented out and the fourth one is where I grew up but we let a family live there for free almost because the appartment is in a state(I have and will ask them to help my mother). Also, I have my own place. This I say because you mentioned useless trinkets.

It is sad, because he was supposed to be already home now and he did not manage to insure his life last time, also he was planning to do the whole medical check that could have saved his life if he had done it earlier..

Somebody aswell said this is not my responsibility, honestly I don’t want it to be. But I do want to help. And this post is about me not being grinded into dust. I don’t want to feel like I will just leave them because it is too much.

[oifjsidjf]

If there are so many apartments and $$$ is tight tell them to move in together in one apartment to reduce costs and rent out the rest.

The guy to which you are replying is 100% correct. This is not the time for luxury. And if those women won't understand this and complain then ghost them: your life has priority: DO NOT LET THEM DESTROY YOUR OWN LIFE JUST SO THAT THEY CAN LIVE SOME IGNORANT LUXURIOUS LIFE! YOUR (FUTURE) FAMILY/CHILDREN IS WHAT MATTERS MOST! Do not destroy your life with ignorant people!

Also: stop letting that family to live in that apartment rent free! YOU are what matters, not them. Charge them or kick them out and get a new family.

[Khelavaster]

But.. never ghost someone. Tell them to their faces in more and more urgent and vocal ways how wrong they are. Don't let them speak presumptions unchallenged. Treat them as people you love, which means keeping them from making bad decisions because of believing nonsense.

[Temporarily21]

That apartment is my mother’s not mine. In the end it’s her say. Her friend has a nice empty apartment but she cannot find tenants. My mum says we have already enough problems. That apartment needs renovation with money I do not have. I can dream only now. She says asking for 50euros a month would be too much.

I do not think my family are freeloaders. And I do not want it to get to that that my sister becomes one. She actually is not materialistic but dad was awarding her for good grades, reading books.

[em500]

> That apartment is my mother’s not mine. In the end it’s her say. Her friend has a nice empty apartment but she cannot find tenants. My mum says we have already enough problems. That apartment needs renovation with money I do not have. I can dream only now. She says asking for 50euros a month would be too much.

In the richer European countries (and increasingly in large cities in poorer European countries) it's impossible to rent any apartment for 50 euro per month. So I'd assume you live in a relatively poor European country and far away from large cities.

- How are the government support programmes / pensions / higher educational funding?

- If you're in the EU, one of the obvious routes is to migrate to a richer country, and support your family through remittance from higher earnings.

[Temporarily21]

I earn more now than I would in Germany.

[elmerfud]

It's good you think long and hard about what your next steps are here. There's no wrong answer here it's deeply personal choice. Hopefully you can strike a balance of doing what you can for your mother, sister and grandmother and doing what you need in order to have a successful and happy life yourself.